Archive for September, 2011
STEP RIGHT UP, STEP RIGHT UP…. IF YOU WANT ALL THE WOMEN AND ALL THE SEXUAL FREEDOM IN THE WORLD THEN YOU NEED TO COME TO PLEASURE ISLAND….
When I initially got into ‘game’, I was quite encouraged by the prospect of hooking up with the best looking girls, by somehow mastering a program. I studied books, went on bootcamps, and lived in forums. The cold truth was, I wasn’t getting better with women – I was getting worse, A LOT worse. How can this be!! The reason was, I had fallen victim to the self-perpetuating marketing machine that is PUA. Let me explain… These companies run by money moguls, lure gentlemen in by eliciting their insecurities with women. Once they are in, they are imprisoned within the circus. (community) They are soon conditioned to adopt the PUA language which they believe is the secret code to unlocking a woman’s knickers, but paradoxically is exactly what is compounding them in a theme park where only the big boss is winning. Anyone still using words like Open, Close, Sets, Sarge, Disarm are NOT getting the sort of girls and having the love life they want – which is exactly what the big boss loves…
Once they are safely in, the doors are firmly shut behind and guys move from one circus ride to another in the hope of making their big breakthrough with women, until ultimately they get frustrated and choose to go on the super duper ride with Mr #7 best in world! A week after they have parted with their £1000′s they are back where they started again, in search of the next big thing.
“There’s something phoney about all this” – Jiminy Cricket
After so long in the PUA circus you start to become someone you’re not. You forget your true personality, using canned ‘openers’, routines and pre-meditated lines. Courtship with a woman becomes like a tactical game of Warhammer and you start to treat her as the enemy that must be defeated. You build up a thick, fake mask over your true identity - You become a Jackass like everyone else.
The way to ultimately have beautiful women in your life, is to escape this PUA circus as Pinocchio does, before it’s too late and return to becoming a natural human being with high self worth and have an attractive & passionate life. You can then gain a new perspective at which to look back at the circus you were once part of. If you are still dependent on forums and are constantly consuming more and more theory then you are just another character in pleasure island.
At The Natural Lifestyles we teach principles NOT techniques. Once you develop these principles you are able cultivate your own personality and eventually cut the umbilical chord to the community. I believe I have reached a point in my expertise where I have transcended ‘pickup’/'game’. I no longer use the battle-field lingo and have reached a point where I can just walk up to girl and say “Hi I’m John” and just enjoy seeing where the wind takes me. It has become a REAL human connection. Compare this to working out the IOI’s and putting together a convoluted ‘opener’ to somehow eventually acquire something from her.
It is on the outside of this circus that success occurs NOT within it.
“OMG HEY, HOW YOU DOING, WHERE’VE YOU BEEN, WHAT OHH,” totally owning the role of the person she met, perhaps on a night out!
She frowns, ignores and walks into Cafe.
showing confusion as to why shes walked off, ignoring her ‘good’ friend!
Because I totally owned this, and no-one wants to be seen as rude, she pokes her head back out to check.
“Do i know you?”
“Yeh do i look familiar to you?”
“No not at all”
“Really? maybe.. i dunno, you just look familar to me, sorry!
Even if she does not buy into it, i have provided a good playful energy and its entertaining to her
“I mean you do have a very unusual face!”
She enters into the game!
“Unusual!? out of all the adjectives – ‘unusual’!
“I mean it stands out”
“Oh ok! in a good way right?”
“Kind of um…angular yet soft”
“Are you a poet?”
“You should be”
This was actually quite a funny, quick in-the-moment thing to say on the fly.
I notice her about to go into cafe so I finish off with..
“go and get a coffee and come back”
confidently assuming connection and holding a strong frame.
2 mins later she comes back out with a glass of wine and within 30 mins is explaining where she is going to take me on our first date!
The key principle here is I am having fun and entertaining myself with my friend. If i had used a serious approach, I would be setting myself up for the fall. I’d be putting myself in a Win/Lose frame. In essence I am autonomous and unaffected throughout. the Hilarity of the gag is my primary objective and the secondary outcome is the girl. That way if nothing materialises with the girl – I always won the game in the first place, thus making me impervious to any negative feelings or rejection.