Archive for February, 2012
You’ve probably all heard of Speed Dating but you probably haven’t heard of ‘Eye Gazing’ speed dating…
Here’s how it works according to the official site …
“An even number of singles gets together in an attractive space. After a fun mini-lesson in the art of eye contact, the group splits into pairs, and each pair spends two minutes looking at each other’s eyes, no talking, with inviting beats in the background. The pairs switch up every two minutes, for a total of forty-five minutes. Then there’s a party afterward, with drinks flowing and luscious beats vibing. You can talk with everyone you met gazing to get to know each other even better and exchange information with potential dates. The eye gazing has an electrifying effect on the party. Simply put, two minutes of eye contact is the Cadillac of ice-breakers.”
This one is being filmed for the ledge that is Lorraine Kelly and her new ITV breakfast show. I decide to check it out and pop along as it would be a fantastic opportunity to practice telegraphing sexual intent through eye contact which is a big TNL principle.
As I arrive, to my surprise one of my future students Antonio is there! We laugh and remind ourselves how it was meant to be that we worked with each other.
Gazing partner #1
After much faffing around from the camera crew, we kick off the eye gazing and first up for me is a girl who looks just like the exciteable geek from Grease only larger and less attractive.
She can barely make any eye contact with me, and is gulping nervously. I now start to feel nervous and it is one of the most painful 2 mins of my life.
Gazing partner #2 Jodie
Next up is Jodie – the ‘bubbly presenter’. (ie fat gobby northern lass)
I decide to sit there and penetrate my gaze and telegraph sexual intent. She too starts cracking under the pressure, contorting her face and raising her eyebrows. At one point she looks as though shes going to cry! I hold my gaze with a Poker face until the 2 mins ends. It looked as though she really found it difficult poor girl.
Gazing partner #3 Lori
Lori is the co-organiser of the event and I’m expecting she’s a dab hand at this. I blast the sexual intent at her and pretty soon, she is pulling silly faces too and looking away whenever she hears so much as a pin drop. Its definitely more comfortable then the others though.
Gazing partner #4 Neus
Next up is Neus the Italian girl, who has the frame of an olympic shotputter, with surprisingly no make up on whatsoever, despite knowing she’ll be on TV. The first minute I decide to soften my eyes and look at her peripherally something which I do to make eye contact less confrontational. She seems quite comfortable with this. Then for the 2nd minute i focus on her right eye and pump loads of sexual intent. She starts to buckle and looks petrified.
Gazing partner #5
Last up is a blonde haired Estonian woman who is the only half decent bit of eye candy there. She holds my gaze perfectly without any flinching. So I begin to triangular gaze from one eye to the other, then to her mouth and back again. I imagine her screaming with orgasms as I pump the sexual intent in. She remains poker faced throughout and It gives me a semi.
When we finish we go back to each person and see what they thought of us from just gazing. Most of the girls forget to write anything except for Patty simcox at the beginning who says to me that she think i’m new to this because i wasnt able to mirror her very well! PAH!
The show goes out on ITV two days later and I feel like a mini celebrity for the day
Here is a live 1-1 coaching session with a client, where I talk about how to improve his dates, create more sexual tension, and understanding the principles of conversation and flirting.