Archive for June, 2012
It still amazes me how this simple insight, which has served me very well over the years, is rarely mentioned, so I wanted to share it with you today.
I used to go out and pick up girls, but at the time there were no books or communities offering information; I simply learnt from trial and error and by watching the people around me. If my friends and I were looking to hook up with girls on a particular night, we would observe carefully and pick our shots. Most often, our decision whether to approach or not was based heavily on one overriding question: Were the girls in a pair?
So here’s the thing – Girls that are out in twos are generally either having a heart to heart or are out to get laid. If they are having a heart to heart, it’s usually because of problems one of them is having in their relationship, which also makes them susceptible to the advances of a new man. In general, this is much harder work, however, and not advised, so we should screen this out early on.
But it can’t be that cut and dry?
Of course it is not an exact science, but I noticed when I started to pick my shots and approach girls in twos, my pick up rate increased exponentially.
Guys in Twos
Take yourselves as an example. When you go out with one friend, you are pretty much always looking to hook up, hence the idea of having a wingman. In a group of three or more, there is a good chance that there is some other purpose associated with the occasion, such as after-work drinks, someone’s Birthday, watching the footy etc. That’s not to say you wouldn’t mind a bit of hanky panky, but the motives for the night are set differently from the get-go. When we go out in a pair, there is something a lot more streamlined and purpose-built about it in terms of looking for members of the opposite sex. The same applies to women.
Now let’s look at it from a logistical standpoint. If you are with your friend and you see a group of three, you are up against it straight from the start. In a two, there will be one girl you like, and it is still entirely possible that her friend will hook up with your friend, thus successfully completing the logistics. In a three, there will be an odd one out and unless she goes home (unlikely due to female solidarity…), she will prevent you both from getting it on that night with your two girls.
Well, what if you’re also in a three? In that case, the probability of each of you being attracted to one of the three girls is very slim. Often your wingman will take one for the team, but include a third party and it’s usually a non-starter.
In the unlikely event that all three are single and you do successfully partner off, the logistics of having sex that night are also flawed. Bouncing two girls back when you have a master and a spare bedroom is fine, but a third couple often throws a spanner in the works.
Huge Indication of Interest
If you approach two girls and one of them is in a relationship and therefore out-of-bounds, she will deliberately retreat conversationally, allowing her single friend to take the reigns of the interaction with you. This is your hint that she is putting herself on offer. Sometimes, the friend will even positively assist the courtship (she could easily be sick of playing love counselor.) You may also notice she will actually excuse herself and leave the two of you to it. If that happens, you have gained total peer group approval, which is the biggest indication that the girl is willing to leave with you. You must then be a man and do this promptly – one more drink and then cab.
Now don’t get me wrong: by all means you should chat to girls in groups of three or more if you are just looking for numbers and potential dates/girlfriends. However, if you want to have sex that night, it is in your best interest to go for girls in twos. Not only from a logistical point of view, but they are out to get laid as well.
Observing their State
Once we have found girls together in a two, there are some other additional clues to look out for. If they are together, but not heavily engaged in conversation and/or positioned in an incomplete triangle formation (i.e. Such that their chests are pointed towards an imaginary point between them), then they are inviting someone to step in and provide the fun they’re looking for. If they are facing each other, generally this means they do not want anyone to interrupt them, so if you do, then you should open with a statement that calls this out, “Wow, this looks intense” or “It’s about a boy isn’t it”. If you open with “Hey how you guys doing” you show no social calibration and they will palm you off quicker than a Dennis Rodman rebound.
Look closely. Are they looking around/bored? Look very closely at their lips throughout the night. If they still have bright red or glossy lips later on, this usually means that they have been reapplying makeup in the bathroom, and are essentially making an extra effort to maintain their prettiness in the hope someone will sweep them off their feet (if they were having a heart to heart, they would not care about this.)
See for Yourself
Think about all the girls you have taken home. Were they initially in a two? My guess is that a large majority of them were. I will often call this out with girls straight away: “I have a theory about girls in twos, you know?” If you get any reaction other than a legitimate reason, you should assume it’s very much on. I recommend you try this. At the very least, you will learn more about women’s motivations on a night out.